Following are the caps of Savera Nadeem from the tele-drama Baandi that aired on March 18th, 2008 on HumTV. Savera is playing the role of a beautiful, but homely wife of an ambitious banker (Saleem Sheikh), who is increasingly finding his faithful, loving and caring wife a drag. What B.B. King called, “The thrill is gone, the thrill is gone baby!”.
All day long Savera runs around the house, taking care of their child and making their house, a home. By the time her chores are done, she is exhausted and unable to give the kind of ‘special’ attention her husband expects from her, at the end of his own hectic day at work.
He begins to drift. His eyes finally coming to rest on an old flame (played by Emaan Malik) who intentionally bumps into him, at his office. Emaan is a one-woman, home-wrecking machine and has no qualms about hurting another woman. She goes about seducing her old college flame. Soon, hubby begins to stay late at work. He has ‘meetings’ with ‘important clients’. When he does come home, he is in a foul mood.
At first, Savera does not understand what’s happening to her marraige. She believes that as long as she keeps the home and takes care of their child, she is fulfilling her end of the bargain as a wife. Dressing up like a tart and acting saucy is not in her job description. After all, she’s married. Why the need for all that pretense ?. Her husband keeps nagging her about her frumpy dressing, but she brushes it aside.
In steps her wise and worldly friend. She knows the husband has got the Seven Year Itch and she puts all the clues together and clues in Savera, who of course, goes into denial. The hubby has the gall next to invite the home-wrecker to his home and has Savera entertain her, wearing the drab lawns. The drama concludes when Savera finally ‘gets it’ and takes to wearing sexy saris and makeup to look attractive for her husband. She does not confront him, only his guilt eats away at him and he decides to swears off cheating on her (for now). The end.
I guess I understand what the writer was getting at. The old adage about husbands only going out looking for some, if their wives are not giving ‘it’ to them. Old, wise black mamma would say, “Gurl! you betta handle yer beeznis”. In this drama they picked on the wife’s dressing (she was not denying him sex). He expected his stay-at-home-wife to wear saris and dress up to the nine’s, like one of those vamps you see on the indian soaps. Is that realistic ?. I think not. Besides, it’s many a man’s dream to come home and slip his hands around his hot, sweaty wife who is slaving in front of the stove and give her some good ol’ loving, beginning with some choice kisses around the nape of her neck…
The dressing in itself could just be a metaphor for other things, in other marriages. It could be variations in sex; oral, anal, swinging, etc. The point being, is the desi wife, in addition to keeping house and taking care of the children 24/7, now also culturally obligated to fulfill her husband’s sexual wants and desires ?. What if he wants her to dress up like Little Bo Beep ?, or a Christmas pie and himself as Little Jack Horner ?. Should she fear losing him, if she doesn’t comply ?.
Now, even though Savera is wearing ordinary lawn dresses, the girl is anything but normal. With her statuesque presence, pretty face, gorgeous tits, small waist and ravishing hips, you can hide her in a potato sack and she’d look delicious. Emaan Malik, sadly looked like a slag, next to her. And that’s why the drama doesn’t quite work. Here you have a dream boat, a luxury-liner at home and the husband is out there trying on a battered canoe. It’s inane.
I remember going on a ride in an amusement park with friends some time ago and it felt so exhilarating that we ignored all the rest of the rides and kept on riding this crazy roller-coaster for hours until we got dizzy and couldn’t walk properly. That’s what I imagine it’d be like being with Savera Nadeem. You would lock yourself in a bedroom for days, months, maybe years, trying to memorize each pore on her body. Think Kathleen Turner and William Hurt in Body Heat.
And It’s not only her beauty, but also her spirit, her soul. The effervescent personality, her honesty and integrity. The humility, confidence and openness. And the rebellious and independent streak that sets her apart from the herd. She is high on life and you want a ticket for this ride.